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The Evolution of a Breakdown

I disappeared again. This time I was off giving birth then learning how to manage time with a newborn.

But now I’m back and am going to try and do at least a post a week or maybe a month.

So, all in all the first two months of motherhood have been going pretty well. Baby Figgy cried a lot at first. She still cries a lot but now that my Mommy-scense is fully developed I usually know *why* she’s crying and how to fix it. Now, I just think her crying is cute (unless she’s crying in the car seat, I hate car seat crying.)

Here’s a crying progression from yesterday morning. Sorry for poor picture quality. They were taken with my phone while we were in bed. It was a rainy day. Figgy wanted to go look out the window like she always does at 1 o’clock. Mommy wanted to stay in bed. Figgy won…


At this point I was rocking her back and forth on my knees to keep her entertained. The look told me, she was over it. And it just kinda progressed from there.




So, yeah… Settling into motherhood.

The Parenting Plan: Antepartum Edition


So, I haven’t posted in a few months. I’ve been busy working extra shifts and getting things ready for baby around the house. But now I’m on maternity leave and have no excuses for not posting!

Here’s a quick update: I’m now officially going on 10 months pregnant with no sign that labor is going to be happening, ever. Feeling good and in general ready to get the show on the road and be a parent.

I thought it would be fun to make a post about what I plan on doing as a parent- and then check back every year and see how real life alters the plan as well as updating said plan. So, without further ado:

The Parenting Plan:

  1. Cloth Diaper and use cloth wipes (unless out on the road. We also plan to use disposable the first week or so until the idea of extra laundry isn’t so daunting.)
  2. Baby wearing
  3. Avoid chemicals by using home made diaper rash cream, home made cleaning products and avoiding other chemically things by making stuff at home.
  4. Breast feed/ pump for at least a year, maybe two…
  5. Baby lead weaning (by this I mean not introducing solids until later than 6 months and avoiding pureed food, not breast feeding until Figgy is five…)
  6. Co-sleeping, but please, for the love of everything holy, not for more than 2 years (this one probably will stand as we live in a 1 bedroom home)
  7. Buying majority of clothing second hand, but sewing/ knitting outfits as well.
  8. Homeschooling
  9. Visiting grandparents at least once a month, and when Figgy is older- dumping her on grandparents for a least a week every year ;)
  10. Spoiling Figgy with love and attention and not material things (although Early also wants to spoil with material things- this will probably be something we argue about.)

**Graphic by AJC1 used via Creative Commons Attribution-Share Alike License

The Crossing

Today was the 10th annual Crossing. It is a mile long, human power commute across Lake Gaston. My mother in law and I decided to give it a go, so this morning we woke up at the crack of dawn and drove to the lake. The air temp was in the 60′s with a cold rain, but the water was toasty and in the 80′s.

The first wave of participants to hit the water were boaters, like these lovely ladies:


Margarita Mamas

Then they loaded all the swimmers into a World War II era barge, a la the ones that stormed the beaches of Normandy. We were carted to the starting line and dove into the water in groups of 5 or so. Lennice and I were in the last group out of the barge- and had to wait about 30-40 minutes before we were let off. That was, by far, the worst part of the whole thing, standing bare foot on the wet and cold metal deck of a boat that no one really ever wants to be on… But anyways. Here are some pics taken by Early:

The finish line

The finish line

Apparently the fastest swimmer did the distance in about 19 minutes- meaning they were in and out of the water practically before Lennice and I even jumped off the boat as we didn’t get let off till minute 12.

I, however, took my time and came in at 47 minutes- swimming the mile swim in about 35 minutes.  (The clock says 49 something, but I had to track down Early. Apparently he thought I’d take much longer and missed my triumphant exit from the water.)



As for Lennice, she made it across the lake in an hour flat!


Overall it was a lot of fun and I look forward to doing it again next year- although it hopefully won’t rain.

Ultrasound Part Two…

So after that long lengthy post I made about how my husband and I decided, after a bit of research and a lot of back and forth banter, to not have an ultrasound: Today we went to the hospital for an anatomy scan.

Why the change of heart?

We had to.

Well, okay, we didn’t have to, but we did if we wanted to give birth with a midwife instead of an OB. Apparently, the midwifery practice we are going to had a string of bad luck in the form of two recent births where the parents had declined all ultrasound and things did not go well for the babies in the delivery room. This made the hospital where the midwives have admitting privileges nervous and wala! New rule: you want to birth with the midwives- then you have to get an anatomy scan.

All in all, both Early and I had a good time. The ultrasound tech knew we really weren’t too keen on getting it done and was super quick. The whole scan took less than 10 minutes and she talked us through the whole thing:

  • Brain in cranium: Check!
  • Two kidneys: Check!
  • Four chambers of the heart and all the proper blood vessels to and from: Check!
  • And so on.

Early definitely enjoyed learning that everything was intact and functioning and said that doing the ultrasound and seeing Figgy made the whole, “You’re having a baby” thing feel more real.

I don’t feel any more pregnant after the ultrasound- I think being pregnant has felt pretty real for a while. But I did learn a bit from the scan: apparently I have an anterior placenta and that’s why I haven’t felt any kicks across my belly- only groin shots. We also learned the gender. The tech pulled up Figgy’s groin and said, “You want to know what it is?” And I knew just by looking.

It’s a girl!

Figgy the Fetus.

Figgy the Fetus.

Afterward they gave us a run off of some photos of Figgy the Female Fetus- most of which look like alien blobs to me. Early is pretending he knows what they are, but I think he’s kidding himself. But there is this one of Figgy’s feet:

Figgy the Female Fetus's Feet

Figgy the Female Fetus’s Feet

My thoughts: Seriously, Figgy, before you’re born, you need to work on your toe point. Whatever you are trying to do above: it’s a lackluster effort. You’ll never make a good gymnast with toe point like that, and dancing is out of the question.

Things I don’t really want to do list: July 20th 2014 edition

  • Laundry
  • Mopping the kitchen floor
  • Folding laundry
  • Cleaning my desk (which also includes paying bills…)
  • Putting folded laundry in the dresser
  • Unloading the dishwasher
  • Putting pillows in the pillow cases

Seriously, I just want to go to sleep! But I know that I can do all of the above in 2 hours and will feel so much better about myself and the state my house if I just… stop…. procrastinating…